im really bummed right now and just need to hear someone who has been there and that things turned out alright.


heres the deal:
my daughter was born on the 23rd and my ex had me removed from the hospital on the 24th so she could leave me off of the birth certificate and use her last name on our daughter. i got to see her that saturday for an hour before she asked me to leave her house. now she is not speaking to me, wont let me see our daughter, supposedly untill she gets an attorney, and i am stuck not being able to see our daughter. we go to court on the 17th but i am still stuck here unable to see our little girl. i tried to put her on my insurance and my ex wont sign because she wants her on medicaid. i am just really depressed right now because i miss our daughter and think about her all the time.

i geuss i am in the perfect position for a dead beat dad, she doesnt want child support or anything but wants me to stay out of theyre lives.
im not a dead beat and i want to pay insurance, child support, and daycare costs so she doesnt have to worry but i also want 50/50 custody so i get to spend as much time with her as possible.

anyone been thru this? how did it turn out?

 

If it's biologically your child, she cant keep you from seeing her unless, she has physical evidence that you are going to cause harm to the child..
So make sure if You are with the child that you have someone there at all times, so that you can have a witness that nothing has happened..
I have seen this many times where one side does not want the other side involved, and came up with a story about the other molesting or causing some kind of harm to the child...
Not saying you would, just cover you self so that you don't get trapped..
It will be you words, against hers, and the courts usually side with the mother on these things.. specially since the child is a girl..
GL..
I hope everything works out for you...
Stay your ground, and demand you be able to see the child..
Atleast you are one of the few that actually want to be involved in her life, and not just take off and leave

 

That sucks to hear man. I haven't been in those shoes but had one of my childhood friends(next door neighbor) go through the same thing. They aren't married to this day but he gets to see his kid and they both(my friend/mother) hang out and talk about everything that's going on in both of their lives and their childs life. Hang in there man and get you a good attorney with everything documented that you have tried to do for your daughter and that she refused on.

Good luck with your situation.....it sucks to hear about this esp. from a father who is trying to get in their child's life. Usually its the other way around.

 

I saw an episode on Dr. Phil similar to this except the mother wanted to give up the child for adoption and the father didnt. See if you can go through his website and look up the archives, I wish I could remember the name of the guy that was on there, but he helps a lot of men out with their rights as a father. Good luck.

 

Get a lawyer, a good one. Don't do anything that can be twisted and used against you by her lawyer. Keep your cool and you will win 50% legal custody. Sucks to go thru, I did a long time ago.... good luck.

Doesn't the X realize that keeping your daughter away from you is hurts your daughter the most?

 

Thats a dumb question. They never think about the kids. For the most part women are all selfish bitches and use whatever they can against us

 

Get an attorney, and don't do anything that could hurt your chance at "fair" custody. Take attorney's advice regarding what to do, and what not to do. With regards to "no child support", your attorney will need to get a signed statement from her stating that she wishes not to accept. Sounds like she's not wanting to accept your financial help thinking that will legally remove right for you to see your daughter... as if you didn't care to help take care of from the beginning. Down the road, unless there's paperwork that shows she refused financial support from you, she could play that "he never supported us... I want back child support" card. Then, you'd be screwed in more ways than one.

Good luck, man! Hang in there!

 

boy she must hate your phucking guts to use the kid as some kind of tool
to do you harm.
she wants to on the system and you want her off.
first off do what the other have said, keep you cool and get a good lawyer.
go with a friend to visit your kid, video recorders help the most.
when she calls let her leave a message and then call her back, but save all messages.
right now fight for your visatition rights, later fight for custady.
any one thats wants to be on the system does not have the money to put up
any kind of a fight in court.

 

attorney, attorney, attorney.... there is attorneys that will take this type of case Pro Bono (FOR FREE) to help dads that are trying to do the right thing - contact family law attorneys and see what they have to say.

... and congratulations on your new baby, try to think of all the good times ahead once you get this b.s. out of the way.