So this chick im friends with....
Jan 29, 2013 | 07:53 PM
#11
Tell her you have a 12" crank...
In all seriousness, don't lie about that. Ok, I would avoid it. If she is putting up with his **** and keeps putting up with it then you are wasting your time IMO. If you send her flowers she will end up telling him at some point, he obviously has her wrapped around his finger to put up with that crap and stick around. I would just sit back and let it unfold between the two of them, if things are really that bad then it shouldnt last. If it does last then you have to ask yourself, is there something screwed up with her? Some women feed off of that crap as messed up as it is.
In all seriousness, don't lie about that. Ok, I would avoid it. If she is putting up with his **** and keeps putting up with it then you are wasting your time IMO. If you send her flowers she will end up telling him at some point, he obviously has her wrapped around his finger to put up with that crap and stick around. I would just sit back and let it unfold between the two of them, if things are really that bad then it shouldnt last. If it does last then you have to ask yourself, is there something screwed up with her? Some women feed off of that crap as messed up as it is.
This is a tough one. She may be an attention hound, and just looking for someone to give her compliments to make herself feel better. If the guy truly treats her that bad, then she needs to get out of the relationship for her own good, or she has some mental issues. If she leaves him after things get going with you, you will never trust that she won't do it to you. She could be out with the girls for a night, and you will always suspect her of doing the same to you. If I were to give advice, you could say something along the lines of too bad you are in a relationship, I would like to meet a girl like you that is single. You never know, she may end up single very soon. It's funny how life works out.
Jan 29, 2013 | 08:53 PM
#13
There's plenty of single women out there that don't come along with the drama bullshit that's going to be associated with this one. Why waste YOUR time? She's not that damn special and it ain't lined with gold, guaranteed
Don't tell her to do anything. Everything you say to make him look bad to make yourself look better plays against you. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you. She obviously has a stronger attraction to the other guy. Why would you want to be with a chick that you already know will talk to someone else behind your back?
Unless you just want to bone her. Then by all means say whatever it takes to spread her legs lol
Don't tell her to do anything. Everything you say to make him look bad to make yourself look better plays against you. If she wanted to be with you, she'd be with you. She obviously has a stronger attraction to the other guy. Why would you want to be with a chick that you already know will talk to someone else behind your back?
Unless you just want to bone her. Then by all means say whatever it takes to spread her legs lol
Jan 29, 2013 | 09:19 PM
#14
My brother told me this once.
"When you're in a hole, quit digging."
I feel like this applies. More than likely what happens in this situation is she never completely leaves him, you two hook up, and now you have to explain to your next girlfriend why you have the herps. If she's not leaving that relationship, it's for one of the following reasons.
1. She's scared to.
2. She's conditioned herself to think that's how guys treat their girls, and therefore, when you don't treat her that way, it'll feel strange to her, and she'll go back to him, and leave you feeling like the biggest piece of **** in the world. (Why would she pick him over me... I treated her way better, what's the deal... etc.) This happened to me once, slightly different situation, same concept.
3. He has her on a tight leash, as soon as she gets away, he tightens the leash and she goes whimpering back to him.
I've seriously seen this play out several times, and I don't see it end happily for the two involved very often. Usually, if you two get together, she'll go back to him, or if he's crazy, he'll come after the both of you. I'd say the chances of this coming back to bite you in the *** are so much higher than you ending up happy, it wouldn't be worth trying, but that's me.
Ultimately, you're going to do whatever it is that YOU want to do. If you do proceed... PLEASE proceed with extreme caution.
"When you're in a hole, quit digging."
I feel like this applies. More than likely what happens in this situation is she never completely leaves him, you two hook up, and now you have to explain to your next girlfriend why you have the herps. If she's not leaving that relationship, it's for one of the following reasons.
1. She's scared to.
2. She's conditioned herself to think that's how guys treat their girls, and therefore, when you don't treat her that way, it'll feel strange to her, and she'll go back to him, and leave you feeling like the biggest piece of **** in the world. (Why would she pick him over me... I treated her way better, what's the deal... etc.) This happened to me once, slightly different situation, same concept.
3. He has her on a tight leash, as soon as she gets away, he tightens the leash and she goes whimpering back to him.
I've seriously seen this play out several times, and I don't see it end happily for the two involved very often. Usually, if you two get together, she'll go back to him, or if he's crazy, he'll come after the both of you. I'd say the chances of this coming back to bite you in the *** are so much higher than you ending up happy, it wouldn't be worth trying, but that's me.
Ultimately, you're going to do whatever it is that YOU want to do. If you do proceed... PLEASE proceed with extreme caution.
Jan 29, 2013 | 10:57 PM
#16
Meh, I'd probably poke her first to see if it's good enough to venture in those waters.... Then if it is, go for it. If she's terrible then cut and run and you haven't invested much into finding out she gives a terrible blow. 
Next time I open this thread there should be pics posted, no way any of us could make sound judgement not knowing if she's a swamp donkey or not. Get to it!!
Next time I open this thread there should be pics posted, no way any of us could make sound judgement not knowing if she's a swamp donkey or not. Get to it!!
Jan 29, 2013 | 11:09 PM
#17
If she's "the one," go for it, if she's just hot and fun to talk to, I'd for sure pass. And if she'd cheat on him, she'll cheat on you, even if she doesn't, you'll never be able to trust her. IMHO
Jan 29, 2013 | 11:17 PM
#18
Ive been in this situation and it never went the way I wanted.
some racey texts, pics, lots of talk....then a couple weeks later some facebook status from her saying "love my amazing bf for bringing me coffee" and i'm like "WTF???"
they love to complain but one little gesture and they're walking on water.
I hope it works out in your favour though!
keep this updated
and perhaps pics would help us judge the situation?
some racey texts, pics, lots of talk....then a couple weeks later some facebook status from her saying "love my amazing bf for bringing me coffee" and i'm like "WTF???"
they love to complain but one little gesture and they're walking on water.
I hope it works out in your favour though!
keep this updated
and perhaps pics would help us judge the situation?
Jan 30, 2013 | 04:52 AM
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sound advice gentleman! im surprised by the amount of responses! I got pictures and wish i could post them up but there is a really good chance that a couple guys on here know either her or him... cant be having that. sorrrry.
i think this one here is a good example "3. He has her on a tight leash, as soon as she gets away, he tightens the leash and she goes whimpering back to him." shes always hittin me up when hes being a dick and isnt going to be around. the funny thing is that there is a big group of mutual friends of both her and him and EVERYONE says she has way more fun with me and that we should be together. thats really what got it into my head. i dont think she would ever cheat on him, there has been oportunities where i thought for sure id be baggin it up with her sayin she cant go because she knows she will be bad. just a really sweet girl with a great family stuck in a shitty situation that she wont leave. they live together and she put a lot of time and money into HIS house and she also knows she wouldnt be able to leave him and move in with me, so im sure feels like she would have no where to go.....
over the weekend was interesting though because im cool with this other girl in our group of friends that just broke up with her man and the 3 of us went out. i showed the other one a lot of attention so they were having a bit of friendly competition. a good position to be in haha
ill be persuing the other girl too though she just said she needs time to get over the dude
i think this one here is a good example "3. He has her on a tight leash, as soon as she gets away, he tightens the leash and she goes whimpering back to him." shes always hittin me up when hes being a dick and isnt going to be around. the funny thing is that there is a big group of mutual friends of both her and him and EVERYONE says she has way more fun with me and that we should be together. thats really what got it into my head. i dont think she would ever cheat on him, there has been oportunities where i thought for sure id be baggin it up with her sayin she cant go because she knows she will be bad. just a really sweet girl with a great family stuck in a shitty situation that she wont leave. they live together and she put a lot of time and money into HIS house and she also knows she wouldnt be able to leave him and move in with me, so im sure feels like she would have no where to go.....
over the weekend was interesting though because im cool with this other girl in our group of friends that just broke up with her man and the 3 of us went out. i showed the other one a lot of attention so they were having a bit of friendly competition. a good position to be in haha
ill be persuing the other girl too though she just said she needs time to get over the dude
