Here in the south it is different I guess atleast I was always taught to respect our elders and that meant older paople as in a genereation older than me were to be treated with respect and use manners when talking to them. I have never had a problem with talking to someones dad or mom and was always friendly and ALL of them ahve liked me that I know of and even called me sometimes to invite me over for various things before my GF even did. Hell one of my GFs from high school her dad had a black WS6 and I helped him do a head and cam swap on it along with various other performance mods and went out to the track with him all the time. He told me I was the son he never had. Then things went south with the GF and well I still went out to the track with her dad and it pissed her off it was pretty funny actually. I have no problem tlaking to parents I just use manners when doing so you would be surprised how far it goes towards winning a parents trust by just being repectful. According to Okie though Im screwing up by talking to them thats why I asked him what he would think if I showed up at his door step to take his daughter out on a date.

Oh and btw Okie Im ALWAYS on time

 

Im 28, and have 2 boys. One is 7 (be 8 in March) the other is 5. They are truly my life. My oldest is my tool boy, hunting buddy, and pit crew. The youngest is a lot more to himself. My oldest likes riding dirt bikes, and is responsible enough to have more $$ in his savings acct than I have in mine, so he can get the next bigger dirtbike if his grades arent quite what his step mom agreed to for her to bu it.

I love my kids so much that as of Dec 15th I went to jail (and am still there) till March 15th (3 days after my oldest birthday ) but I couldnt live with myself LETTING their mom move with them.

My little men are the best thing to ever happen in my life, it matured me really fast, but I also see it as on my 40th birthday, I get to give them the keys to an apt or something and have the whole house to me. Come eat visit do laundry whatever, but you dont sleep here.

I agree that the way your kids behave is 100% reflective to disipline, I also learned that if you start strict and expecting a lot, you can slack up later. My ex (the boys mom) always left the disopline to me, at my house its yes sir no mam etc. and they do what they are told when they are told, there is no longer a need for spankings, however at her house, they have problems. I took care of getting the respect I deserve as a dad at a young age, and all the disipline that is needed now is a glancing look, or maybe a stern word.

My oldest used to get a choice of straightning up, or getting a spanking (tried to teach responsibility) and he decided both on many occasions, afterward, I made it clear that that was his punishment and he was no longer in trouble. He has turned out to be one of the most mature 7 year olds I have ever seen.

 

how are you posting from jail?

 

so true. thanks to all the idiots out there, all you have to do is not be a retard and you look brilliant in comparison.

excellent is achieved so much easier by lowering standards

 

I got in the work release program, so I leave jail in the morning come straight to work, get off in th eevening and go straight back to jail, so I get on the net at work.

 

damn....jails aint' like what's on TV huh? but yeah here in the south it usually is easier talking to the g/f's parents b/c about half the time they're your aunt and uncle anyhow right???

 

Slow I'll be honest with ya. In my opinion, which is the only one that counts if one has even the slightest thought about dating one of my daughters, there are no second chances for first impressions. Screw that up and you might as well stick a fork in ya, your done. From there what I think of you all depends on you. To further clarify what that means please re-read the "Rules"... .

Just kidding. Manners go along way with me. Proper manners and courtesy speak volumes in the way one was raised. But, manners can also be a double edged sword. It could be the way a person was raised, being taught respect, courtesy, politeness, and to always look someone in the eye when speaking with them and shaking their hand. And speaking of shaking hands there are no limp wristed, grab the fingers like a bitch hand shakes. Handshakes between men are always full-handed firm shakes. On the other side of the coin this person could just be trying to suck *** to get in good with the ole' man. This method never works. The true person always shows his face. It is easy to say yes sir/no sir, but the actions that follow will prove whether he is sincere or not with his mannerism. By that I mean little things that you do will tell me whether you are a bullshitter or not. Things such as opening doors for not only for women/ladies, but for ordinary strangers as well. If wearing a cap/hat you remove it when sitting at the table for a meal. Your vocabulary (meaning mouth) in front of women and children. Actions such as these come naturally to a person that has been raised "properly", and are easy to spot if only trying to impress the ole' man.

On to other pass/fail items. One...a job. Meaning a full-time respectable job. No you don't have to be the stereotypical doctor, lawyer, accountant, etc..but one that will allow you to support my daughter and future grandchildren in the manner I decide is good enough for them . Being a pimp, mack daddy, jock, or any other *** chasing occupation does not qualify. There are exceptions to this rule for those in school full-time pursuing their degree. After graduation better be beating down doors...

Your political affiliation. Republican. Don't mean to offend anyone but that's the way it is. You want to get along with the ole' man, right?

You spoke of showing up your truck. Driving a truck instead of a ricer and the lack of a fart bomb is a ++. Since I do have a keen sense of hearing specifically tuned for detecting sounds that go lopety, lope, I would have to do some on the road analyzing to make sure its not a bad plug wire, fouled plug, you know what I mean. Don't want you guys to break down or anything .

Good clean hair cut. No 80's mullets. Earrings, or metal in your nose, eyebrows, tongue, nipples, nut sack or where ever else you might want to go with a nail gun are big disqualifiers. And yeah, don't be a retard.

What's going through the fathers' minds? Most young people probably think dads are thinking about how they were when they were teenagers. I know how I was, and have been called a ***** on more than one occasion. But, in reality while that does cross my mind occasionally, mainly I worry about my daughters safety, well being, and feelings. Look at it this way, they are leaving with a guy that you really don't know anything about. They are supposed to go here, but are they really. Are they going to be partying and then driving afterwards. God have mercy on his soul if so, because I won't!

My daughter, who will be 19 soon, is dating a guy that just turned 22. At first I was 22? WTF, nope not gonna happen! But turns out he is a stand up guy. He is an assnt. branch manager at a bank. Never been married. No little bastard children running around (that I know of anyway). Owns a house. Also he is in the middle of the Fellow Craft initiations and then will be on his way to becoming a Master Mason, which is an accomplishment for someone his age.

Oh and a tid bit for those who think personal/private information about you can't be found in short order. In 15mins I had this guys social security number, past 3 addresses, date of birth, home phone number, offense and date of last ticket (Speeding on a motorcycle in OK City), employer, and the vehicle he drove, which was a ricer then, but now an Avalanche.

Sorry the post was long winded. I hope I gave you some insight to a fathers thought process.

 

id definately be in your good graces

 

Me too

Trey would just need to cam the LQ9 and it would be gravy

Too bad you dont have another daughter that is 19

Sounds like you are a good father. I just always wondered what was going through the fathers head in particular when I came walking through the door. Was it "He seems like a nice guy" or "OMG he is going to deflower(nice term) my daughter" you know those kind of things. Sounds to me that if they think the way you say you do then then they werent really worried.

I wonder if any of my ex's dads ran a background check on me I would feel special

So any dads in the Houston TX area or Austin area that have a daughter my age

 

I used alot of .