That situation sounds familiar but yet a little different. I think your situation is a little worse than mine. My daughter (2yr) goes to a school 2 days out of the week and on the other days my wife watches her, sometimes. My wife decided she wanted to go to school again to become a RN. Right now she is going to school on the days that our daughter goes to school but goes to work at 5-10pm M-F and on Sat 8-5pm. So while she is at work I watch our daughter. I don't get any breaks but if I do I am lucky. The only day that I can actually have a break is on Sunday but that is usually our family day and we try to spend time with each other. I, like you, don't get to do some of the things I enjoy because I am either watching our daughter or spending time with the both of them. I have told my wife that I need some time to myself but then she gets pissed because she thinks I don't want to spend time with her. She doesn't understand that I stay up with her until 11-11:30pm during the week, knowing that I have to get up for work at 4am, just so I can spend some time with her and help her with her school work.

I feel for you bro. I would think my wife would understand that I spending time with my dad that is having health problems would be important to me. If she didn't then she will find out very quickly when I am not there and she isstuck watching our daughter. I am not saying I would leave my wife but just leave to spend time with my dad and have every intention to come back.

 

The way I see it you have already laid the groundwork for the Radix. Just mention to her that your VHO is a very rare vehicle. Only one of 957 made in the year 2004. That makes it a collectors item. It can only enhance the value of the truck by making a mod like this. And if one day times get tough, you can always...

Man, if she buys into that, let me know. I have some cam work I would like to do on mine.

 

Sounds like you have been rehearsing

 

Yeah he has rheumatoid Arthritis(for 20+years), asthma, emphysema, congestive heart failure, and there's some days when he can't even put his shoes on because his feet are too swelled. Yet he stills gets out and works in the hot Georgia summers mowing 30-50 hours a week when he feels like it. My wife plays that where she gives me the 'Why dont you want to spend time with me routine?'. What I cant make her understand is I'll have the rest of my life(assuming nothing unexpected happens) to spend with her, but may only have a couple more years with him.

 

As you can probably tell from my previous note I did not have the wisdom to establish these understandings up front. Now I get to discuss these matters with her. I had the same problem as you guys about hunting with my dad and am now going through the same issues about my truck. Every now and then I have used the "damn the torpedos" approach and it has worked. After a few nights on the sofa all is well again.

I don't want to sound like a deadbeat husband/dad and I am by no means perfect. We both work, so I help around the house, coach sports teams, teach youth bible classes, lead and help in our scout pack and troop, cook, do homework, and even grocery shop some. She is equally dedicated to our child and volunteers her time at church and in the community. And yes, I do feel selfish when I want to do something just for me.

Things are working out, but it has been a struggle. I go hunting with my dad 2 times a year for 3-4 days each time. I am also able to spend a little money on my truck. It is considered my hobby and "all guys need a hobby". The plus there is that it is a hobby I can do in my garage a few feet away from family. I'm not gone every weekend and I'm there for them if needed, except for track nights once a month.

 

For some reason I am feeling like a guinea pig

 

Dam! I was sure hoping for the boob job!

 

She got you by the ***** Spyder!!!

 

Mine just gave me a "I guess Im not getting a ring any time soon" I surprised her with the 14K ring two weeks later. Dont go that route. Now Im counting the days until I have to write a check for 8K for ***** as well!!

 

my Gf said that as long as when we get married that i buy her *****, i can do whatever i want to to my truck.