I've never heard of a woman going "coo-coo" after having a child.....usually in my experience they had some degree of coo coo-ness to begin with.

Glad its over for you. She must've been real coo-coo for you to get the kid. Usually the courts and everyone else sides with the mother, no matter how good the dad is.

Luckily I've never had to live with a crazy, but my neighbor across the street does....been together since they were like 15-now they are like 28, and shes left him and cheated on him at least twice a year since they got together. She's bipolar and skips the medicine. He learned plumbing, worked hard, started his own company and last year made 400 grand. She drives an escalade, has a boob job, does whatever whenever, and when she gets the redass hes out of the house for a week or so. Never apoligetic, never smiles, never has anything good to say.

He treats her like a queen for some reason, and not 2 days go by where I dont hear her in the driveway screaming at him for something. It's ridiculous to say the least.

He's into guns, and recently came over and showed me a 40 cal hangun he bought, and bought her a matching one in pink. I said dude you dont buy someone like that a gun. He said man she doesnt even know how to shoot. I said, She'll figure it out!

Pretty girl, and I'm sure that ***** is tight as hell, but aint no ***** worth havin when you have to share it and prolly aint gettin it in the first place.

Like I said glad your ordeal is over.

 

LOL, thanks skolman but I've already got the room-mate thing worked out...my mom moved back up north from south jersey and she's my room mate now. It's good for the both of us, she's here closer to her friends and family, and if anything happens to her I'm right there to help out. We're renting a 3 br house, and if anyone has to come by to check on Rosie, she has her own room and a 3rd person around that the courts can trust (not that you can't be trusted brother, but the powers that be might frown upon two dudes and a 4 year old lol).

I don't have full custody of my daughter 1LOW, I have my daughter half the time, and her primary address is at the ex's...it actually works out best to both keep the ex-wife happy, and because Fair Lawn has a better school system than Hackensack where I live. I see my daughter every Tuesday, Thursday, and every other weekend. I pick her up from school Tues, Thurs, and drop her back off there Wed, and Fri, then pick her up from school on Fri on my weekend and drop her back off on Monday. Still trying to work out the kinks in the schedule, but it seems to be working out.

I was sick this week (a whole other story), so Rosie stayed with the ex, but I'm back at work in the morning then picking up Rosie after work, for a fun weekend with daddy. We have a joint 1 and 4 year old birthday party for my step brother's son and daughter on Sunday (at the Turtleback Zoo), and are going to go shopping at Toys R Us for their gifts on Saturday...of course Rosie will be leaving with a toy or two. Can't take a kid to Toys R Us and not get them something...that's like going to a speed shop and leaving without at least a lug nut or something lol.

*EDIT* Almost forgot...your neighbor's deal sounds pretty cooky 1LOW4X4...at least my ex didn't cheat on me (that I know of)

 

"Hackensack" really? who are you joey Buttafuoco..?

 

LOL, yea, without the hair and high school girlfriend Close though, my last name's "Ceralli"...fuhgeddabadit! You think that's bad, the ex's last name was "DellaVecchia" before she dropped it back 5 letters shorter When her brother used to play soccer his last name used to run from the sleeve of his left arm, across the back, and on to the right!

 

damn...gladd its for the best, women can be real complicated I have come to realize this and im only 17....however the only advice i can give you is treat your daughter like a princess. Also take it slow dont rush into another relationship theres alot of fish in the sea sooner or later your ex is going to realize she made a mistake (i think)...thats all i can really say since i dont have that much experience with being married or anything like that

 

Good advice man, there's a lot of wisdom in those words I'm 40, and I've been planning to do exactly as you said; treat Rosie like a princess and take it slow ...goes to show that years may give a man experience, but that doesn't always make him wiser.

And yes, I believe that she did make a mistake...her loss, by the time she figures it out it will be too late. If she changes her mind this time, unfortunately she'll understand the err of her ways.

 

just keep your word because ppl tend to change seen it amillion times make sure rosie is attached to you and be there because if your not shes not going to want to spend time around you when she gets older, educate her, teach her about life slowly and make sure she sees you as her bestfriend just dont stop being there NO MATTER WHAT! Its hard being a child with just one parent....and i guess im a little wise maybe since ive been through alot growing up i was dirt poor but now im glad i did it taught me alot of things and to look at life differently. Hope you do great its going to be hard at first but later on it will get easy.

 

Congrats Dude,

Glad you worked it out so you could have your girl. I'm waiting for the paperwork to go through on my divorce. We've been separated since January 1st (Happy New Year). We didn't see eye to eye anymore either. I spend more on my truck now than ever. ++. I'm ready for this thing to be done my self. Let's just say that I notice since I have been put on the bench there are some ladies ready for me to get in the game.

But ain't no tang worth loosing cash over.

 

Thanks again for the words of wisdom mando313...my daughter is my world, and I'll do everything in my power to teach her and show her the lessons I've learned, and how not to make the same mistakes that I've made, and to give her all of the love in my heart. I can't wait to pick her up from day care this afternoon, as I mentioned, I haven't seen her all week and I'm so excited to see her

Sorry to hear that you're going through it too jadaven, hope it goes smoothly and quickly for you. I've heard of some divorces getting pretty ugly...luckily my wife and I are on the same page about one thing, Rosie is the most important of anything, and everything else comes second. We didn't have anything to fight over, we don't own a house, and all I have (material wise) is my truck and my tools, which she has no interest in...and she knows that my tools make me money that I'll have to give to her in child support lol. Even though I'll be caring for my daughter half the time, I'm still going to pay child support, which doesn't make a lot of sense, but I figure for $100 a week, it was worth it to get things over with cleanly and smoothly. I just hope that the ex uses the money on Rosie, and puts money away for her, as I plan to do.

Don't go breaking too many hearts jadaven!

 

no problem bro thats what were all here for to help each other out even if im kinda new just recently started logging in more since im trying to learn more about trucks so i can fix my truck up this year (my senior yr of highschool) in my automechanics class well if you need anything just hit me up GOOD LUCK!