You guys are some emotional fools. hahaha If i was in your position Hit Man i'd let her come to me, and if she came to me for some good dirty stuff, I'D DO IT.
I do agree that if a guy goes after a taken woman knowingly he needs his *** handed to him. But if she is the one going after the other guy, its her fault, not his. I've been married 6 years now, and if i found out my wife was showing interest in another guy, and asked for his #, i'd drop her real quick. I wouldnt be mad at the guy, cuz anyone spoken for should be able to control themselves.
IMO if your not happy with who your with your going to look other places. For all you know she could be having doubts about spending her life with this guy, and want to look elseware for someone that matches her needs better.

I wouldnt think any less of you for meeting her, dating her, or even doing her. She's looking for a reason. Who knows what it is, no one i know understands weman, but it a reason. At least talk to her like a friend if you have anything in common. You only have to go as far as you let it go.

Dont get scared, GETTER DONE!!!

 

In my experience women who are unhappy with the things in their lives are simply just unhappy people, it really has nothing to do with the person they are with. She's looking because she's never satisfied with what she has. Once she gets the new stuff and it doesn't 'fix' her like she thought it would, she is looking all over again.

You could hit it, but you wouldn't be doing anyone any favors, I think you know that already.

 

Not true, Im as real as a 3 dollar bill.

Hit Man - You sound like a smart level headed dude, for sure.

So, having said that *throws black book in front of Hit Man* Go ahead and write your number in here. We'll have some coffee and a danish....

 

This actually how I met my best friend. She started working where I worked. A couple weeks later, we were already friends and were sitting in her car because she dropped me off at my truck. We were sitting there for a few minutes talking, and as I started to get out to get into my truck, she writes down her name and number and hands it to me and tells me to call her at 4:00 since that is when her HUSBAND is at work. We hung out all the time when her husband left for work. We both have feeling for each other, but I told her that as long as she was married that nothing could happen between us.
Some of y’all might think I am stupid for saying that, but I have more respect for her husband than to just be hittin his wife while he is at work. I wish things were different, like she wasn’t married, but he met her first and if she hadn’t gotten married, we probably wouldn’t have met. She doesn’t work with me any more, but we still talk everyday, and we are best friends, we can tell each other any thing. If she does ever get a divorce, doubtful, then maybe we will start dating, but until then we will be friends and I can live with that.

-Matt

 

good for you bro, good for you

 

Well becareful man, the last girl that REALLY fucked me up (I'll try to make this pretty brief as I could write a novel here) I was introduced to her when she had a b/f. We spoke on and off for a while...that became to more often than not...then he tossed her aside for another and she came crying to me. I was there for her and after that we got really close as good friends and I fell for her and she did for me.

This happened over the course of about two years. Then about 4 months ago he went back to her and she just dropped me. To this day I have no closure on it and it hurts, a lot. I cried for weeks after she just stopped being my friend. We never slept together or anything, we were attracted to each other deeper than that...I met her how I wanted, she loved me for me, wasn't into all the stuff I owned, sex/money/property wasn't an issue.

I assume that she went back to him as he was the first guy she slept with and can't shake that from her mind yet as she hasn't gotten past that as she's young too. In time she will realize what she had with me, but I won't be around. I met her at the wrong time in my life I'm sure of...if I had met her 10 years from now, we'd be married. I'll always love her and she'll have a place in my heart, but after getting hurt so bad again I can't go through that again. She turned out to be everything I had been wanting...AND then some.

That's the short, abridged version of that. It's WAY more convoluted than that...I mean WAY.

Moral of the story it seems now, don't get involved in the first place.

 

I know how ya feel, I was with a girl for a year without having sex (she was a virgin and I didnt push it), she didnt care that I drove the Camaro and she didnt care about my age (she's only one year older but that has a lot of effect on teenage girls) and after a year we finally had sex and about a week later her mom found condoms and she was too dumb to deny it so her parents said they didnt want us together and she went along with it, tore me up, but I got over it. Before her I was a player after that I was a player thinking just like you are now "If love can fail what's the point, I'll just have my fun" but in all honesty I met my current g/f and I love her 10 times more than I ever cared for the other girl.....you'll move on and be happy later, dont worry about her

 

Well this is not the first time I've been hurt like this. I see no reason to try again, I've accepted the fact that I'm supposed to be alone. I just try to hang out with my few friends I have left that haven't moved away and that keeps me somewhat positive. It sucks but I ain't got **** in my life anymore so I don't need anymore sadness. Besides that's more money in my pocket. I've already come to terms that this one is gone also, and yes it is shitty but it's life. We got carried away with it too soon. I fucked up and that's all she wrote.

 

well...stay positive but I know in about 5 years you'll be with someone else or married....no doubt

 

Perhaps, only time will tell. But as it sits now, I'm emotionally gone. I can't even see myself in a relationship, let alone dating someone. But that's okay.

You meet people for a season, reason, or life...but understanding their purpose is next to impossible until you part ways and learn a lesson from them.